I always grew up seeing mom’s with one kid or many and thought, “How fun would it be to stay home?” Even with my own mom growing up it was fun, (not always) but most days we always had a fun day!
When I became a mom I quickly learned that it isn’t always fun. There are no step-by-step directions when messes happen. Oh and boy do they happen more and more these days. But I was recently at the store and couldn’t help but over hear a couple of women talking back and forth. They kept making the comment, “a good mom would know better”, and “she will learn once the kids get older.” Okay I know ease dropping is not great. But I couldn’t help it! I know they were not talking about me in anyway, but I was down right offended!
A good mom?! What makes a good mom? Am I a good Mom? There are a 100 other things I would rather do than clean each day, do that mean I am doing things wrong?
I’ll tell you what makes a good mom:
The mom who stays in pajamas all day just to play because it’s “just one of those days”
The mom who has the screaming kids in the grocery store and you feel sweat from your head dripping because you are so embarrassed. You are a good mom.
The mom who puts on a movie just to sit down and have a quiet house because we NEED some quiet. You are a good mom.
The mom who can’t remember the last time she washed her hair because of exhaustion. Day 3..4…5??? It is THAT bad sometimes…You are a good mom!
The mom who has a dirty house because the kids finally went to sleep and you just want read a book for once. You are a good mom,
The mom who knows the lyrics to every kid’s song even when the kids are gone. oh how I hate Elmo….You are a good mom,
The mom who snuggles and kisses instead of cleaning-Making for late night cleaning! I can’t count how many times I have stayed up until the late hours of the night cleaning because it was too much fun to stop playing and hearing those giggles. You are a good mom.
The mom who gives treats before dinner-Sometimes we just need them! I try not to but sometimes I am the one who WANTS the treat before dinner! You are a good mom.
The mom who stays up late cleaning because bedtime is precious. Again, I would stay up every night to clean before missing a hug and kiss and my little girl saying, “wuv you”. You are a good mom.
The mom who reads more than one story because it means more snuggles=LOVE. You are a good mom.
The mom who lets the kids stay up late because dad wants to play with them. I do this more times than I should. But I love seeing my husband run around with the kids before bedtime. They love him so much! You are a good mom!
The mom who makes more than one meal for picky eaters-Finally out of this stage! I have to admit I am so glad I don’t make more than one meal anymore. But it doesn’t make me a bad mom. You are a good mom.
The mom who makes mistakes each and every day of the year, but try again the next day. I try to improve myself. But more times I see a fail, or trail appear than a success. Keep trying. Stay Positive. You are a good mom.
You are a GREAT MOM. No matter who you are and what you do. There is no good way to be a mom. There are no directions although I really wish there were when you have kids….. We make it up as we go. Every mom feels the same. Every mom has those late nights of little sleep. Every mom has the occasional (or constant) breakdown and cries. Every mom complains.( I do more than I should at times) I am here to tell you being a mom is hard no matter how many kids you have and no matter how many years of “experience” you have had. You cannot judge another Mom for how she does something because the chances are she is doing the BEST she can in that moment.
My dad told me one day when I complained about a dirty house, “you are making memories”. I remember this each time I think of something I “should” be doing instead of laying on the carpet playing tea party. This time goes by so fast. Make the memories you can before the kids are grown. I always make time to clean now because it makes me happy to have a clean home but when I forget or just don’t feel like it? Well, I am still doing great as a mom I think.
I know it is easy at the end of the day to guilt yourself for the messes, but stop! It is OK! I have found establishing a routine to get things done works best! Find your routine, times that work best, and do what you can.
Don’t worry about the dirty dishes piled on the counters. This means you had a meal to share with one another. I struggle with this each day. The dishes are my enemy! but I have learned to let go and relax once in awhile instead.
The dishes are not as important as the people surrounding you. Don’t worry about all the little things that go wrong. There are so many negative things in the world if we try and find them. I could count more negative if I tried, but I don’t want to know the negative. I want to focus on the positive things that go on each day. So look how many positive things surround us daily. Focus on the positive things surrounding your feet and screaming in your ear, that is what makes every day a good day.
That is what makes you a GREAT MOM.
You are a GREAT MOM. Remember that.