You know I have never once thought, “man I can’t handle two kids.” You just get up and do what you can. But since having two kids, I have come to hear so many comments about “having my hands full”, “needing a nanny” or even “don’t have anymore until you figure these two out.”
I have THE BEST KIDS. I am not bragging by any means but I got so lucky. Yes my kids cry in target and throw tantrums you would think only happen on tv. Yes, my kids hit, scream and bite me in public. Yes, they are crazy and a “handful” at times, but those watching from the sidelines only caught us on a bad day or moment. Do they act like that always?
Do I want more kids even on the bad days?
OF COURSE! I love being a mom and would have more in a heart beat. Its not up to anyone but us and we love our job of being parents. Only we can raise these kids and I think we are doing a pretty great job.
So what is it like having two kids under 2…14 months apart?
I’ll tell you…
You hear comments daily such as: “You sure do have your hands full” or “Bless your heart”.
First off I can’t count how many times I have heard this comment since having my kids. Yes, I am carrying two kids, pushing the stroller because they both will not sit in it, and trying to get the keys out of my pocket. But I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I love having these kids this close! Second, growing up I was told a lot of things to always remember:
- “You may not be excused until you eat your vegetables”
- “Wash your hands after using the bathroom”
- “Don’t pick your nose”
- “Boys should always open your door”
- and “Bless your heart” means one of two things…
A.Bless your heart (You precious child, you really have no idea what you are talking about)
B.Bless your heart (Set your hair on fire and run down the street)
So when I hear “Bless your heart” I get confused; which one is it?? I have my hands full but should you really be “blessing my heart?” My heart loves these kids. You should really be “blessing my hands so I don’t drop either of them walking to my car.”
You count down until nap time and bedtime:
Some days we have so much fun that time flies by. Other days I find myself counting down until bedtime just so I can sit. Love them, but they need naps!
Edited: Now that my kids are 1 and 2, naps seem fewer each day. But oh how I count down for 3o minutes of a break.
You are buying the same size diapers for both kids:
You finally realize it has happened. These kids are sharing the same diaper. True the second child could fit into another smaller size, but is it worth it? Just slap that number 4 on and celebrate you didn’t just spend 60 dollars on two different sizes. Oh and then cry when you realize there is only one diaper left at the end of two weeks…
Edited: We are now potty training our oldest. Love. Hate. But positive side to this is we only are buying one box for one kid now! Potty training on the other hand involves so many accidents it is like we bought a puppy and need a turf of grass everywhere we go…
You become pro at nursing standing up:
You cannot ever nurse one – on – one with the new precious baby without thinking, “where is so and so” , “they are being very quiet”, “I bet they are in the bathroom destroying the toilet paper”. This especially happens right when your cranky baby FINALLY latches on. It’s like the toddler times it, looks around the corner at the peaceful joy in mom’s arms and begins turning into Dennis the menace.
Edited: Still nursing my 1 year old. Still can stand up. But now that the “baby” is bigger, my oldest thinks they both should get some “boob” milk. I don’t know where this became the new rules. Needless to say Tiny Lady thinks she gets some too. I will not out of the frightening though she will bite off might nipple!
You cannot ever leave your toddler in the room alone with the baby:
I did this ONCE. My little moose of a baby was three weeks old, fresh out of the NICU and I come walking in hearing my oldest say, ” tom on bebe nigh nigh! shh shh shh” As I walk around the corner, there she is dragging him by the legs taking him to bed! Needless to say they never were alone together ever again.
Edited: I still cannot leave them alone together. They are both mobile and climb into, on, and around everything. I just plan on always walking around a mess when they are up.
Your daily food intake consist of chicken nuggets, cheerios, juice boxes, and gummy snacks:
It’s challenging trying to figure out what to feed your oldest when it is so easy to “whip out” a gourmet meal for the newborn. You spiral into this consistent habit of chicken nuggets, yogurt, cheerios and the occasional gummy snack for the oldest just to make them happy and quiet for a few more minutes of alone time with the baby.
Edited: Yay they both eat real food!?
You lay in bed each morning thinking, ” 5 more minutes, 5 More Minutes, 5 MORE MINUTES!”
Each morning is a challenge in itself. If you have a schedule where you can wake up and get things done, then great! But if you are like me where some days I just want to lay in bed, snuggle the blankets and get a little more sleep…dream on.
It is always these days where I lay in bed and like clock work once again I hear the sweet sounds of ” Mama up up up, ea ea ea (eat)” and the joyous sounds of “ahhhhh ahhh” from baby #2.
Edited: They sleep in longer now that we live outside each night before bed! So thankful for an hour to myself each morning!
You never have time to sit down eat a meal and drink water:
This is and was hard for me. I would go all day forgetting I needed to drink MORE water.
Edited: Still don’t…
Peeing feels like a blessed break:
Oh wait this break includes the toddler handing you toilet paper, saying, “mama you pooping?” and her flushing the toilet when you aren’t even finished peeing. But if you do get the “blessed break” of sitting down alone without the “helpful” toddler, then enjoy it, you earned it! haha
Edited: It was more of a break when one wasn’t walking. Now it is like, “how fast can mom out run the kids to shut and lock the door before they get there…”
Going grocery shopping :
Lets be honest this does not happen until dad gets home
Edited: We go grocery shopping now….But we don’t like it.
When people ask what it is like to have two kids under two:
You say, ” Oh it is so fun for them, they have someone to play with.” But you really mean, “do you know that ancient word they refer to as SLEEP? I wish that would come back again. Oh and, “I wake up with puke on my shirt, cheerios in my hair and two kids screaming at me for food, but it is a “joy”, you should really have another and try it out.”
Edited: I love it. It is not for everyone, but it is for me. This is what I was meant to do in life and I love it.
TV for some reason does not work anymore for distraction:
You remember when sitting down and relaxing meant watching an episode of Friends? Well even if you play Frozen, Tangled, or Finding freaking Nemo ten times a day, the first five minute into the movie you hear, “ummm no niffet one” or they run out and say “all done”
Finally all the times you get “Mama wuv you”, kisses from your oldest and late night snuggles with both kids really makes all the other things disappear. at least for that moment. Tomorrow is a new day! I wouldn’t trade these moments for anything.
I heard a saying once, “The days are long, the years are short.” Make all the moments with the kids special and memorable because before you know it they are huge, both walking, talking, and making special messes for you to clean up each night.
Edited: The days are still long, we fight, cry and sometimes end up in the same bed together, but I can honestly say having the kids have someone to bond with, fight with, and snuggle in the same crib (oh did I mention the oldest will escape and join her partner in crime every night?) it is so worth it.