However, I also saw the change that came having kids. There are ten “secrets” I found out about my husband after having kids.
1.He is ABSOLUTELY the most attractive person ever when holding a baby.
That’s right, the minute I saw him hold my little angel for the first time in the hospital, it was pure bliss. He was smiling from ear to ear and holding her close. He was kissing her forehead and all of a sudden calling her “dear and sweetheart”. He was telling her how they would be best friends from that day on. It was so cute!
2. His “inner child” will emerge and NEVER leave.
After the baby comes and gets a little more mobile, you will begin to see how that former inner child your husband may have had becomes more intense. It begins to feel as if you have two children (or more). One little helpless baby and one giant helpless man!
3. He will begin justifying “why the baby needs this or that” just so he can have it.
I don’t know about you but when we had our Tiny Lady all of a sudden sentences like, “She needs a .22 to start learning”, or my favorite, “If we don’t get her Star Wars on DVD she will never learn what an Ewok is!” became serious requests. Simple things turn into life or death situations because “the baby just HAS to have it!”
4. He will never do the things you do each day, or do them exactly how you do them.
I am not perfect, AT ALL. But I have a system set up when it comes to certain things around the house. On the weekends it is as if all of the “kids” are mini tornadoes making bigger messes for me to clean. He will never clean like you, or even take care of the kids like you do, but he is there doing it in his own special way.
5. He will surprise you with his diaper changing skills.
Wow can this guy change a diaper! The first week? Not so much! But after a month he becomes a diaper changing ninja. Give it a year and all of a sudden (somehow) he is changing the diaper in the air while the kids are crawling away, rolling away, or even running away!
6. He will still find you as attractive as the day you met.
It is hard looking at pictures when “this or that” happened and think, “where did my body go!?” But despite all what is in our heads, he will continue to tell you things like , “you are gorgeous today.” Especially on days I feel so crummy about myself!
7. He works harder than ever to provide.
There’s nothing like having kids to make you poor 😉 . Money gets tight and even seems tighter when being a stay at home mom. It may not be true, but it just feels like that! I noticed the day we had our babies my husband worked more than he should have to get just an hour more of pay for us to put into savings. He did this for so long that we were able to live off of our savings for that whole year before getting( what I like to call) a “big boy job”. I am so grateful for this!
8. He tells you to “sleep in” because “he’s got this” on Saturdays.
I LOVE SATURDAYS! All of a sudden Saturday mornings turn into, “let dad make breakfast with the kids and watch a morning cartoon while you sleep in days”. I love these days haha. There is nothing better than extra sleep with no kids climbing everywhere on you!
9. He comes home from work tired and still crawls around on his hands and knees to play “kitty cats”.
We have an understanding in our home. “You work-I work, You are tired- I am tired”. It is the same despite the job. But no matter how tired he is, there is always time to play their favorite games. “Kitty cats” is an on-going game where they crawl around meowing and the kids climbing on and taking rides on the cat. Got to love this!
10. He tells you we need to save for a bigger car because of the OTHER KIDS that we will have.
Other Kids?? The day will come when he finally mentions having more. While this is in the far-off future for us (because I cannot imagine having them so close! 14 months apart plus more!? I want a little time to process the two I have!) I love that he is thinking about this. It makes my heart melt knowing he wants more kids.
There are probably 100 other things I have learned about my husband since we have had our kids (like the amount of patience it takes for a man to handle tantrums haha ). But I am just so happy I have him as a Husband and Dad to my little ones!
What is the funniest thing you learned about your husband after kids?